A month ago I found myself in a situation when more people turned to me for a little help. This is nothing new, happens regularly, this time though my skills and knowledge were not enough to assist them and their projects. I had to rely on my old and recently made connections.

I knew exactly how certain people could be of service, they had the network, the experience and insights. Don’t think of anything that would have required for example a financial commitment or more than 30 minutes of their time. I contacted a few of my old colleagues, and even my ex-bosses, who have known me for decades or only for a few years, but I knew that they liked working with me in the past. I was plain refused by every single person, with various excuses. I was so sad. Mainly because those who requested my help, either work for the change we all wish to see in the world, or through their skills, they simply make the world a more bearable place. To put it simply, they all work for the common good and I am always happy to support such people, whenever I am provided the opportunity.

I have a background that somewhat separates me from reality, but those who refused me, belonged to the corporate world. Both in the academic and the third sector, exchanging knowledge, experiences and connections, is normal and much needed to survive, to develop and initiate projects. Many who work within these sectors, tend to curse their circumstances because of the major obstacles they face on a daily basis, thinking of the lack of resources, financial support, and the knowledge that however hard they work, only minor changes can be achieved. Of course there are limits, it’s not a good idea to solely rely on others’ assistance, and own interests often take precedence, but overall, they are a helpful bunch. I believe that in many ways we are spoilt rotten. We can be sure that there is always someone to help out with an idea, a review, a contact number or an experience. These are all free to share, and take nothing away from us. Rather, it makes us feel good to support something worthwhile.

I am still thinking about those who refused me, trying to find excuses for their attitude. I keep wondering whether they refused because they are truly not aware of the wealth and value of their knowledge and network, and they don’t know how to put these into good use. This is totally possible, given how money-focused their life may be.

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Stay well, Be kind.